Which category do you fall into?
Over the last half a year our website has been averaging just over 60,000 visitors per month. Looking at our stats, and reflecting on the interaction that we have with our readers, I figure I can lump these folks into five different categories.
Random visitors and lurkers
Firstly, there are those who only visit our site when they see a link on Facebook that catches their eye, or a Google search directs them here. I pay attention to our stats, so even though these folks don’t come here regularly, they do still help by letting me know what type of content is valued.
The next group of visitors are those who come to our site regularly, but seldom ever comment or interact with me. Many people prefer to remain anonymous; I get that, so that’s cool. For the record, I did manage to inspire a large group of these people to come out of the closet some time ago. 🙂
Even though I have next to no give and take with the people I just described, I can see from our analytics that they’re visiting, and that leads me to believe that there is still some value in what I do here.
Those who add value and inspire me
The next category of folks are those who, in addition to visiting here regularly, add value to the site by commenting on posts, sharing their personal experiences and info. I have learned a ton from these people, and appreciate their input to no end.
Even more tangibly, the next set of readers are those who actually support our blog financially, either by purchasing items through our affiliate links, clicking through on ads that they find of interest, or the best way, by actually donating funds via the Paypal link that you can see near the top right of this page. Living expenses aside, this blog does cost money to run, and so does the internet connectivity that we pay for to update it. It’s nice to know that some people understand that, and opt to assist when they can.
All of the people above, especially those in the latter categories, inspire me to continue to post on this blog. I’ll be honest, everyone likes to feel appreciated, including me!
Those who piss me off!
Unfortunately, there is one other group of visitors, and fortunately it’s a very small one. These folks, instead of adding value to the blog, or supporting our efforts, complain when the content doesn’t quite suit them, or respond to my posts with passive-aggressive comments. We do have a stalker or two, and I just block them, but for the most part, I typically approve every comment that we receive, even if I don’t like it. While I was brought up being taught that only sticks and stones can hurt me, I will admit that this negativity does piss me off, and in no way inspires me to continue to post.
My suggestion to those who are unpleased with what I write is to do the intelligent thing: stop coming to the site! It only makes sense… if you’re not happy, move on. That’s a great life lesson! Perhaps check out some of the sites listed on our Research Page, or even better, lead by example, and create your own website. When you do, please share the link here. I’ll be happy to add it to our list of links so that others can benefit too.